It’s very important to spend some time with your partner before you go to sleep. It doesn’t matter how much time you have to spend together — an hour or just a few minutes. If it’s just the 2 of you enjoying each other, talking, and showing your love, that is all you need.
Bright Side made a list of some simple but very effective pieces of advice from psychologists. We also prepared a special bonus for you at the end.
1. Switch your phones to silent mode, and put them away.
Social media dependency suppresses the release of oxytocin in your body. This hormone is responsible for emotional intimacy and bonding. Psychotherapist Carol Carey advises following a simple rule: turn off your phones, or put them away at 9 p.m. on the dot.
2. Forget about work.
Try to forget about work, and stop checking your work email when you are in bed. It’s so much better to spend that time together and to have some rest so you can be productive at work tomorrow. Pillow talk connects couples emotionally, helps you forget about problems, and makes you feel relaxed. Avoid talking about work, financial troubles, or anything else that could make your partner feel worried.
3. Go to bed at the same time as your partner.
Many couples don’t see each other all day long and have a habit of going to bed at different times. According to psychologist Curt Smith, happy couples brush their teeth together and go to bed at the same time. It helps them to maintain the warmth and intimacy of their relationship.
4. Follow a routine.
Following the same bedtime routine every day helps you to sleep better. While following a familiar routine, your brain receives a signal of the approaching bedtime and prepares your body for sleep. If you follow the same routine together with your partner, it will make your relationship more intimate and trustworthy.
5. Have a heart-to-heart talk.
Pay attention to each other’s feelings. You don’t need to give advice or find immediate solutions to problems. Sometimes we simply want to talk and feel the care and support of our loved ones.
Psychologist Ryan Howes suggests dedicating a few minutes before going to sleep to expressing positive feelings to your partner. This will help end the day on a positive note and make you feel better. It also has a positive influence on your overall mood.
Try to forget about everything that happened that day, and leave all your problems and concerns outside the bedroom door. Tell your partner how much you love him or her. It’s very important to be serious and sincere when you express your feelings.